Hey everyone,
I’ve noticed a pattern whenever I talk to women, especially on dates. Everything stays on a friendly or surface level, and I just can’t seem to move the conversation toward anything more intimate or sexual.
It’s not that I want to be explicit — I just want to build that mutual attraction and tension that usually happens before things get physical.
But whenever I try, I freeze. I’m scared that if I say or do something flirty, she’ll think I’m a creep or a pervert.
It’s weird because deep down, I know I’m a decent guy, thoughtful and respectful.
But at the same time, I feel like someone like me isn’t supposed to act sexually confident — as if it would ruin how people see me or how I see myself.
I think this makes me come off as safe, friendly, maybe even a bit detached.
Has anyone else experienced this? How did you learn to bridge that gap between connection and desire without feeling fake or inappropriate?