I (F40) was seeing this wonderful guy (M40) for 6 months now- a really intense and wonderful time for me. We broke up recently, because although I didn’t want to pressure him into a relationship I knew that I want one. It just became more and more urgent to me, also due to personal problems with my family , where I wished for more (emotional) support from his side. Not so easy. We had a great connection and were even friends before, but it all comes down to whether we want the same thing in the end.
He is very involved in his creative career and puts a lot of pressure on himself because he feels it’s now or never. He‘s incredibly afraid of failing in his career paths, so he said he can only focus on that for now.
It’s not only bad or unhealthy that he pursues his own goals. They have been lingering for a while over long summer months where he did nothing. I‘m really curious to see the results of his process now.
– so in so far I can understand some of this urgency.
But why does he sacrifice our relationship? He seems to also struggle with depressions, but so do I from time to time. I‘m really fond of him and like him but would need our relationship to grow into something deeper, more reliable and consistent. Have you ever experienced something like that? What is this thing with pursuing heartfelt goals and sacrificing the relationship for it?
He‘s now sick and I wanted to check in with him but he’s not replying.