My boyfriend recently told me that he would never want to marry me unless I agreed to have threesomes or group sex in the future. He said he’d rather break up than live a strictly monogamous life, because he can’t imagine being with only one person forever.
According to him, this is just “the reality of men” that if someone is attractive, they’ll naturally have many opportunities with other women and will eventually cheat if they’re in a monogamous relationship. He believes that allowing threesomes or open experiences is a way to prevent cheating.
As a side note, he often tells me that I’m his most healthy and mature relationship, that I give him stability, peace, and a sense of belonging and family. I have a successful career, I take care of our home, I cook, and I genuinely try to be a supportive and loving partner. In my head, I consider myself a really good girlfriend.
But lately, he’s been saying that he misses the intensity, the “crazy sex experiences” and wild lifestyle he had before me. He says that kind of excitement is more important to him. Once a man experiences a lifestyle like this, he can't go back to boring monogamy.
It honestly shatters me, because it makes me feel like no matter how much I grow, give, or love, it will never be enough simply because I’m not enough for him as he said. And personally me I never had these kind of experiences, even the though makes me uncomfortable. But who knows, maybe if I try it I would enjoy it? What would you do in my position? Would you settle?