She cheated about two years ago. She drove to another state to meet up with a guy. They didn’t have sex, but they did other things.
She was also in a really unstable place mentally. Her meds were all over the place and I understand that. I’ve been there myself, I’ve made mistakes too.
My question is: after they draw that line in the sand, when do you stop looking for it? In every interaction, there’s this trace of contempt, barely there, like 0.001%. But I can feel it. She irritates me more than she used to, and I hate that.
I think I still love her. That’s what’s kept us together. (That and a friend who convinced her that dumping me for the guy would be a bad idea.) She says she loves me too, and I… mostly believe her.
I’m not interested in anyone else. I’m not looking for an out. But I feel like I’m being mentally tortured by all the reminders. We’ve done marriage therapy before… maybe we should try again? But I’m not sure it’ll change anything.
How do you stop searching for the damage once it’s been done?