She is a really good friend but will often take a long time to reply to my texts (over 24 hours) and I know that isn’t crazy long but it does get to me
sometimes just because I see how much she’s on phone when I hang out with her, so she’s not someone to not be checking her messages. But we have a solid friendship so I guess it’s fine, and I know I do have an anxious attachment style which makes it worse. But I hung out with her recently and the first thing she said when I saw her was “do you hate me?” and I was like ??? then she basically said my replies had sounded a bit dead recently, and I didn’t reply to one of her messages (even though I thought I did). I apologised because I didn’t realise my responses had sounded a bit dead and she said it was fine and it was also because a couple of other friends had taken a couple of days to reply to her and she was saying how upset and kind of angry it made her and I was thinking it seemed really hypocritical. And she’s also made comments before about how I never text her which annoyed me because I always try to text her throughout the day and I realised it wasn’t reciprocated and if I didn’t message her I wouldn’t hear from her for 2 or 3 days so clearly she doesn’t think about texting me much either. I know I get annoyed if she sometimes takes a while to text me back and it comes out in my responses sometimes but I think I get more annoyed because this feels a bit hypocritical to me idk