I don’t know why, but when it’s been a week or more with no sex with my wife (38f) I start to spiral in my own head. For context we have sex roughly 3 times per month and there are times we go 2-3 weeks without intimacy. When it’s been more than a week though I feel myself start to withdraw more and not be as present around her.
My biggest problem is that when it’s been more than a week, I start to hope that she won’t initiate and we go longer. I even at times turn down her advances and then regret it later. I feel sometimes that it’s better to not have sex than do it knowing that I’ll have to wait a week or longer until the next time. When we do have sex it’s good, but just vanilla and only her on top. When the gap widens between intimacy, I start to wish and think a lot more about new positions that she won’t allow or even try.
Why do I do this to myself?