I (23F) have this coworker (27F), whom I see everyday and have to interact with for several hours. She is not a bad person, she just has very different values than me. She cares a lot about status, being a social butterfly, dressing well and appearing a certain way, and not only am I the complete opposite of all of this but I also really dislike this lifestyle and the archetype she represents. Again, she is a good person but I feel really drained from our conversations. She talks about her dreamed wedding, a really expensive dress she wants to buy and i couldn’t care less about weddings and dresses. I nod and engage in conversation because I feel like a bad person if I don’t. I’m really sensitive to people not being heard so it is like an impulse. So my question is: how do i fix that? it’s not something that happens only with her, but with other people too. Like a conflict between a deeply held value of wanting to give people attention and kindness, and a very unsettling feeling of sacrificing myself in the meantime. Tbh I generally struggle with people pleasing, and I guess my problem right here falls under the people pleasing problem I have, and it creates so much stress in my life, because I realise that sometimes I put myself aside so much, that it physically affects me.