Like the title says.
I’ll try to keep the background short. 3 weeks ago my boyfriend (26M) and our group of friends went on a trip to Brazil. I did not go despite being invited because I couldn’t get off work.
When they returned, my friend (24F) who also did not go on the trip had told me that our other friends (24F) and (21F) had told her they saw my boyfriend making out with a girl at the club.
This is where things get weird and I’m genuinely not sure who’s lying here. I confronted my boyfriend and he denied it but did admit he was talking to a girl at the club. The only video evidence they have is of my boyfriend talking to a girl at the club like he said, but there is no video/pictures of them actively kissing. When I asked them why didn’t they have pictures of them kissing, both girls said their phones were dead at the time.
Here are some facts that make me even more skeptical:
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Apparently these girls have a history of lying or exaggerating situations. My boyfriend has suggested I talk to his other friends who have known these girls since high school and can attest to their behavior. I’ve only known these girls for around 3 months whereas everyone I’ve spoken to has known them for much longer than me and has told me this particular group of girls are known to spread rumors and have done this to other relationships.
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My boyfriend has cheated on me once in 2019 but I believe he hasn’t done it since then. We had broken up for 2 years when I found out but then eventually got back together. This is also why I am struggling to take his word.
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The girls never directly came to me and told me. Instead, they had told our other friends who had nothing to do with the situation and I had to hear this from my friend who was not even there at the time they are claiming he cheated. This makes me wonder if it really is for drama since they never came to me directly and pulled other people into it. If they had my best interest in mind, I believe they would’ve came and told me in private immediately. I also didn’t hear about it until 2 1/2 weeks after the occurrence.
Who would you believe in this situation?
TLDR: Friends who I have only known for a few months are claiming my boyfriend kissed another girl. Boyfriend says it’s absolutely not true. Those “friends” apparently have a history of starting rumors and drama according to people I have spoken to that have known them for years. However, boyfriend has cheated on me before in 2019 but I believed he had changed since then and when confronted back then he told me the truth. I genuinely feel confused by both sides and cannot tell who is being truthful.