So for context, my gf makes absolutely zero noise during sex. completely silent. She doesn’t try to kiss me or hold my hand or anything, I also noticed she never initiates.
I brought it up with her and she said she “doesn’t really care for having sex” and she “mostly only does it to make me happy / not disappoint me”
Now since then, we’ve tried like 3-4 times but I just.. can’t bring myself to want it. Like when I asked her today her response was “well I know you’ve been asking me recently so okay”
I can’t bring myself to want it because what part of that is romantic? Every time, since then, when we try to have sex I can’t get the idea out of my head that she’s just doing it for my sake. And it’s a huge turn off. anyways, I don’t know what to do or who else to ask about this kinda stuff. So.
I want to also add that she doesn’t let me touch her at all down there. She said she would rather “be the person who gives pleasure” which makes it feel even more one sided to me.