Hey. I am 25F, growing up I didn’t have much extended family or any best friends around except for My immediate family which includes my parents and siblings. My father has always been very negligent about us and my mother had to step up and take care and earn too. Even though we all live together we just always saw my mom doing everything. So I was the one, the second born, after my mom who did everything.
Now my sister got married and I am going to get married in 4,5 months. The problem is I am hyper-independent. I can not accept when someone does something for me. I hate it a lot. My in laws invited me for dinner, they paid for it and I tried to pay for everything else that we had after that, including dessert and drinks etc. they didn’t like it because it was them who invited me. And I just know why I did that, I wanted to repay but it came out as rudeness.
Need help how to cope it.