Hello, first time poster. I’m a woman (25) and I came to the realization that I’m the problem when maintaining friendships.
I always have a busy life. I had a lot of friends back in college but after the pandemic my social life went downhill. My stopped talking to them (one of them hitting on my minor sister), but I also stopped replying as I pretty was depressed because I was falling my classes, started working and my mother had cancer.
Then, I started working. I’m the type that talks to everyone but is close to no one, doesn’t hang out or asks anyone out. Mainly because I think I’m just bad at realizing? Maybe I’m bad at trying to be closer to people.
After some time I started working remotely and got even more isolated. My friends were leavinf the country (I’m Venezuelan) and my schedule got even worse as I worked long and odd hours, often being unable to make it to family things because of work.
Now, I moved to Paris for some time. Again, talk to everyone but close to no one. I would go to class and then work very late into the night. Other girls since they had more time they became friends but overall I was the girl from another class who was nice and tagged along.
I guess this is me crashing out in the middle of an anxiety attack. I try my best to be an open door to everyone, but I guess I’m just too intense and too busy at the same time
Social norms are so hard sometimes.