I am (not too high) on the spectrum and have a low degree of savant syndrome. I analyze social situations critically and have some understanding of how people act generally. I can blend in easily by replicating what I see but basically never develop a proper connection with people and I struggle to understand what others think of me and whether their reactions to the things are say are an indication of approval, rejection or just a regular neutral response. Thus I haven't yet discovered what appeals to people in a way that allows for a friend-like relationship.
Very few instances of friendship happen but they have occurred previously and those are friends that I could be myself around and it's not really a problem for neither of us since I am not out-of-this-world autistic and I tend to act normal around these people.. or at least what I (and probably they) deem normal.
Now before anybody comes at me saying "just be yourself", I am and always will be. I just need to fix the way I verbally portray myself. This is a very broad, unfocused and open-ended question but what truly strikes friendship between people? What is the subconscious rope that is tied between people that make them "friends"? How do I act in a "friendly" manner that isn't too relaxed but not too pushy either?