Important context is that we'll be informal "colleagues" soon so the fallout of a breakup could have dire effects on the atmosphere of our team, nevermind other possible consequences of a relationship within the team. Combine this with her still being hurt by a breakup and me sharing similarities with the reason they broke up and it's easy to see that she'd rather take it slow.
Now, whenever I text her about something that leads to us taking a step further (e.g. asking for or planning a date) she takes literal days to respond. While I keep cool outwardly, in reality my anxious attachment ass is not having a good time for a good part of the week.
It's also worth noting that she has ADHD and I've seen her notification bar (it's absolutely horrendous), and she has already stated that if I ever wonder why she's taking so long to respond that's why. Probably doesn't help that she's currently busy with assignments and exams too.
This just doesn't feel logical to me though. She responds in minutes to more regular conversational texts and I know she's going to say yes anyway, so why take ages if it takes a couple seconds to do so? She's still responding in the work chat whenever this happens and I get that there's some urgency to do so, but it just feels counterintuitive to leave the guy you have feelings for hanging when you're already taking the time to be texting people.
For clarity I'm not mad at her cause I understand the emotional gravity of the situation, I just really want to get perspective on why she does this to ease my mind.