After a lot of trial and error (and a bit of obsession tbh), I noticed patterns that changed things for me. Call them "micro-tactics" if you wish:
- Predictability kills dopamine and attraction with it. Be playful. Make up your own words. Take unexpected turns. Novelty = dopamine.
- Split your texts. Short messages signal social fluency, and social fluency is sexy.
- Compliment effort, taste, or energy over looks. “I like how you match your jewelry with your outfit.” Something they actually can take cred for.
- Compliment their self-image. Praise who they believe they are. It hits different.
- Neediness and desire are 2 very different things. Neediness pushes away. Desire, expressed right, pulls people closer.
- Bake in social proof. Mention friends and plans whenever possible. Always a good idea.
- People crave three things: to feel understood, special, and desired. Master those and you’re a natural.
- Build anticipation. “[Name], you know what?” → wait for the reply. It makes texting with you feel alive.
- You don’t have to answer everything. Some questions stall energy. Skipping them is a quiet flex.
These took me years (and way too many dead conversations) to learn.
You guys agree w. these??