I know people are not gonna like what I am going to say but , my wife started getting these wrist tattoos, when we went away to the sea side and now it has become a tradition to get one when we go there, I expressed i dont like them,she has got some 6 now , but it feels like it will never stop they just look like graffiti, they are not really symbolic of anything they are little wims decided at the time of walking in, so now I am trying to avoid the sea side and I feel like its making me un happy , by that I mean its making me feel more negative about the relationship, I haven't said anything mean or made her feel a certain way,I have communicated i dont like them but I get the response it her body her choice, which is true, I have to say that statement made it worse I have been a keen gym person for a long time and years ago got tore a new one at thinking about roids and the conversation but is the same not also true but I didn't do it out of respect for the other person, I am not in anyway going to control the situation that's not me but I guess I just feel what's good for one is not for the other, yes I dont like tattoos but I think now I can see her mindset its made her unattractive and the tattoos are just a reminder of that mindset, after the most recent 2 tattoos I dont find her physically attractive but I believe I am more looking at the person and the mindset more than the tattoos.
I do understand that when i talk about roids and tattoos they are on a different level and not to take it out of context i am not looking to stop or control the behaviour but i am in a weird place i am thinking is it time we go seperate ways after 23 years of marriage
your thoughts are more than welcome,