My husband moved to my home state to be with me while we were just dating.
Context: I had moved to his state to try something new and I found him by mistake. I did catch him trying to initiate conversations with other women on social media. He was the only reason why I decided to stick around longer in his state. So when I found out, I told him it’s over and I’m moving. He stated it was a mistake and when I moved back
To my original state, we went long distance. I had told them him it wasn’t working out for me and he could move her or I could visit him on a mini vacation. ( basically told him we could be friends with benefits as long as he didn’t have a gf when I visited). He moved here with me and has done everything to earn my trust again
We got pregnant and now have a 4 month old
He makes less money in my state and workers longer hours. He wakes up at 4am for work and comes home around 5pm. He helps me clean when I ask and is a very responsible and active father.
Except for diaper changes. He calls 💩💩diapers code red and I rush in to help lol
He lets me sleep in on Saturdays by taking the night shift with the baby. My disability didn’t pay me until 3 months after being on maternity leave due complications. We were a one income household for the last 3 close to 4 months. He never complained. He encouraged me to DoorDash so I can eat because he knew the baby wanted my undivided attention
He said “ let’s go get your eyebrows waxed”
We both have been blessed with bushy eyebrows that turn beautiful when properly done haha. So he knows how important my facials and wax appointments are. He hadn’t done his in 4 months but made sure I did mine. He got me a new phone the iPhone 13. I had the 12 prior. ( I hold on to my phones until they are completely unusable and I asked for the 13 because it was easy to pay off and I’m just not interested in making payments on the new one). His phone has been glitching over 3 months but has not bought a phone because limit is 250 for a new galaxy s22 or 23 . He’s team android and I’m not haha
Point is that he also shows his affection and love in other ways
But I randomly go back to the day I found him trying to cheat and I bring it back up. And then I feel overwhelmed with the cleaning and taking care of our baby and how I’m basically on duty 24/7 and I hardly leave the house.
I feel horrible for picking fights. I did tell him that i think I’m having a hard time relying on him because I’ve always had a full time job and recently just started working again. Only working 3 days ( Saturday- Monday) mainly just to pay off my car sooner.
I was thinking about buying him flowers tomorrow and making a nice dinner and giving a back massage
But i would love advice of how you forgave and never mention the “cheating “ again. I also have gained additional weight and I will admit I don’t feel attractive