I (31F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for about 2.5 years. I’ve been asking him for a while now to post pictures of us together. I’ve explained why it matters to me — it makes me feel seen and valued — and I’ve even been specific, like asking him to share at least four pictures of us per year.
Despite that, he always says he’ll do it “tomorrow,” but that tomorrow never comes. He does have an old photo of us (from two years ago) as his Facebook profile picture, and I’ve met his family and been to a few events with his friends.
I regularly post photos of us, and he’s told me he likes it — so I don’t get why he won’t do the same. Lately it’s started to bother me a lot. It makes me feel like maybe he doesn’t see me as his girlfriend, or like he’s not fully proud of our relationship. I’ve brought it up a few times recently, but it usually ends in arguments.
TL;DR : I don’t think he’s cheating, but I can’t shake the feeling that he’s not entirely satisfied or is keeping me somewhat hidden. I’ve also been in a similar situation before, where a guy kept me secret — and later I found out he had a real girlfriend. So I know I’m a bit triggered by this, but it’s hard to ignore the pattern.
Am I overreacting here? Or is it fair to expect him to post about me occasionally after two and a half years together?