Me 40M, wife 36F. Apologies for click bait title but that’s how I’m feeling right now.
A few days ago, out of absolutely nowhere, my wife came home heavily depressed. After some prodding, she somewhat opens up to me that she’s unhappy w her life, who she is, where she’s going, though she said “I’m not ready to talk about things after I have some time to think”
Fair enough.
I gave her a few days. Today I woke up and saw she still looked sad so I decided to stay w her this weekend and not go to work or to our house 2 hours away where we’re getting ready for some final building inspections.
She seemed very happy. A few hours later, after I had brought flowers and made reservations ahead of a romantic date, her attitude flipped. She was getting pissed for no reason. I confronted her, and a bomb exploded.
She went into things about me, my personality, character defects, and she went DEEP. I spent 30 minutes on the couch getting eviscerated by her in a way Ive never been by anybody. Some points valid. Some, meh. Others completely out of bounds and felt like she was trying to hurt my feelings.
This was a straight up resentment bomb. I dont know where to go from here. I’ve got LOTS of things that I’m not happy about her, sexually, personality wise, temperament, but I’d never share certain things bc I thought it inappropriate.
Weird thing is while I’m surprised this happened, I kind of don’t care. I thought we were getting to a place where we were both comfortable. Accepting personalities. But nope! Shit