I’ll do my best to keep this short. I’m a 30 year old guy, and while I have had one girlfriend in the past, I’ve never really “dated.” I always felt like I was fairly normal. My past relationship lasted for a while, so I didn’t think anything was abnormal about me, but after having more conversations with people around my age, I don’t feel normal at all. It feels like most people have gone through the process of going out with different people and finding out who might fit them best as a potential partner (an experience I just don’t have and can’t relate to).
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me per se. I think I’m pretty good looking. I’m 6’6 tall, fit, dress well, have good hygiene, and feel very confident in my appearance. My physical traits have made me feel worse about this situation though, because a lot of my guy friends act like it’s weird that dating somehow isn’t “easy mode” (their words, not mine) for me. You know, the old “if I had your height I’d be in the NBA” type of BS comments and attitude…Outside of looks, I have a good career, I’m educated, and am a very outgoing and funny person.
I think my biggest issue/barrier is that i never assume anyone is interested in me romantically. In fact, I don’t think anyone has ever liked me or had feelings for me before (outside of my one previous relationship). I make female friends very easily, but those relationships (of course) stay platonic.
I don’t really see myself as a dating app person or anything. I’ve never even tried one before (and probably never will). However, I know I need to try and meet more people organically. And perhaps, I need to get over my natural inclination to assume that nobody is interested in me (and that I’m bothering people by even thinking that way).
TLDR: I’m a 30 year old guy who has never really “dated”, and I guess I wonder if it’s too late. I also wonder if there’s something I’m just doing wrong. My friends think it’s weird (and wrong) that I have good qualities to offer yet don’t really succeed.