My (22f) boyfriend (23m) and I have been dating for 6 months now. We met after we both graduated from different colleges. I never dated in college, and he was in a relationship for 3.5 years while he was in college. This fact never bothered me until I learned some new information recently. I thought that they had broken up 4 months before we had started dating, but I recently found out that they actually broke up 2 months before we started dating. When I learned this information it brought up 3 main concerns that I now have and I don’t know if I should talk to him about it or work through it myself.
The first concern is that I am a rebound. I am worried that he did not have enough time to move on. One other reason that I am worried about this is that his ex comes up not super regularly but enough to raise concern especially after I learned this new information. It didn’t raise any flags before because he only brought her up when he would tell college stories because she was there with him for most of them. But there have been times when she is brought up when she does not need to be. An example of this is us talking about horror games and him bringing up randomly that she could play all horror games except for the last of us. Another example is me talking about tattoos and him telling me what tattoos she had. These do not come up that often and are always somewhat related to our conversation so I am not sure if they are red flags especially since I have only had 1 boyfriend before back in high school.
A second concern I have is that he is with me because he wants to be in a relationship not because he wants to be with just me. He had a girlfriend for most of high school (not sure exactly how long), then got into his current relationship a couple months after he got into college. It makes me worried that he has not spent a lot of time single and has been in a relationship almost the whole time since he got into high school. I could be biased in this aspect though since I was single my whole time in college and loved it. I also have never been in a long-term relationship before so I don’t know what a typical timeline looks like for someone to move on.
The final concern I have is that his family will compare me to her. I have been both os his parents a couple of times, they live out of state so my contact with them has been limited. Both of them have brought up his ex. Granted it has only been a couple times and it has been mostly related to the story they were telling. It wasn’t absolutely vital to bring her up to tell the story but it made sense that she was mentioned. She also went with him for every holiday with his family for the past three years. We are from the U.S and he wants me to travel to go to his family for thanksgiving and I am worried that it is too soon.
I have a bad habit of overthinking literally everything. I have been going back and forth on whether this is an issue that I should talk about with him or something that I need to work on my own. I have been doing some reflecting and it has helped a bit but some advice on if I should talk about him with this would be very helpful.
Tl;dr: I recently learned that my boyfriend broke up with his ex of 3.5 years 2 months instead of 4 months before we got together. I am worried that he did not have enough time to get over her and I am a rebound or he is with me because he wants to be in a relationship. Is this something I should talk to him about or is this something I need to work through by myself?