This is what he said “You’re welcome! I do like him – he opens doors for you and it appears it adores you. I thought he was friendly, respectful and easy to talk to. I trust your judgement “
This is also the first guy I’ve ever introduced to my parents.
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As gently as possible – you’re overthinking. Dramatically.
Sounds like your dad likes him, thinks your bf adores you, was friendly, respectful and easy to talk to. It also sounds like your dad respects your judgment.
Op your dad told you straight up how he feels about your boyfriend, what are you unsure about?
I think in general he gave approval. As a male with a daughter though I will say that more than likely, he’s not far enough along in the process to make a complete judgement on other aspects of your boyfriend. MAYBE, based off what he emphasized, he thinks your boyfriend might be too nice in a sense, but there is slim chance of this. As Dad’s we obviously like guys who treat our daughters pleasantly, but we also look out for if guys will take care/protect/defend our daughters. As I said, probably not far enough along in the process for your dad to make that judgement.
He hates him but doesn’t want you to have to lie under oath once he disappears. /S
if it’s the first time you’ve introduced a guy it’s normal for him to be cautious. im sure every dad is, some are just better at hiding it.
Jesus. What else could he say to convince you?
That sounds like a typical dad response.
As a father, my only concern is that my daughter is treated with respect and as an equal. As long as the guy or girl checks the required boxes, we are good. If he doesn’t check the boxes, we may end up boxing.
Sounds like the guy checked the required boxes for now.
If he stays around for long enough, your dad may like him in the long run.
Your dad likes him, thought he was friendly, respectful, and easy to talk to.
Is there any other way that COULD be interpreted? Am I missing context or is my autism showing
Sounds to me like he made a good first impression but your dad just met him so is trusting your judgement seems pretty straight forward
I’m digging deep here, but it seems like…your dad likes him.
You are being paranoid. Nothing he said was negative.
Well i don’t know your dad but sounds good to me.
I’m curious of the “Your welcome” part. Could be a great dad joke, thanking himself for raising a daughter who brought up a good guy, or as he said, trusts your judgement but only met him because you asked?, so he’s saying your welcome, for the “thank you” you didn’t give him after meeting the boyfriend he didn’t care to meet but liked?
Feel like I’m going down a bit of rabbit hole there, which is why I assume you posted this. But either way. Seems fine to me. He liked that he seemed to treat you well and trust your judgment in who you want to be with. Can’t really ask more than that from him, unless the guy breaks your heart or puts a ring on your finger, think most dads have no reason to like / dislike who you bring home, not a part of the job description lol
I was so confused about your 28 year old female dad
just how much validation does it fucking take to keep you at a baseline level?
It sounds like 95% of his response is exactly what you’d want to hear, he thinks your boyfriend is friendly, respectful, and clearly adores you.
Yes, this is positive. I see the same with my daughter’s boyfriend. He treats her great, he’s a great guy, what’s not to like?
You are not questionable. It would have you questioning. Regardless, it sounds like he likes your boyfriend.
I think he added the part about trusting your judgment because he’s still getting to know the guy. I’m a parent of a 28 year old who got married young and we loved him after meeting him once, but it turns out that the person he was in front of us was not the person he was behind closed doors. The guy turned out to be a closet alcoholic who after a year of marriage decided to tell my daughter that he was not a man, he was a trans woman. My daughter was ready to make things work because she lived the individual, not the gender. He then says that he’s divorcing her and then asks for bus fare. He broke her heart. Turns out that he was just confused because he’s no longer trans which is why I’m referring to him as a male. Years later my daughter meets a different man and I liked him when we met but I have to trust her judgment. It’s impossible for me to say much more than that he seems like a kind man. Realistically I don’t know his character or his heart. It’s scary for parents too.
What is there to interpret?
Every son in law is great the first day you meet him. Men know this. We need to see him a couple times. Maybe under pressure and then we make the assessment. But we’re never gonna ruin it for you on the first meet. We have no idea. And we also don’t want to say something negative that will just spiral.