My bf and I have been together for 4 years and have been living together for a little over a year. I had an almost 3 decade old car that I bought myself with cash. It was my first car to pretty much learn how to drive and stuff. Ever since I bought it, it’s had issues where I have had to fix every other month. Recently my car was getting worse and worse and I wouldn’t have lasted to the end of the week. I have been throwing out the idea of getting a “new” car. When I say “new” I mean something that is at least a 2015-2019 that way I won’t have to worry about anything anytime soon. My commute to and from work is between 2hrs to 2 1/2 hrs. My BF’s commute is 10 minutes. He refuses to let me drive his car but drives mine all the time. He did entertain the idea of me getting a car and said he would help with payments if I needed. Well I just got a car out last night and the whole day I been sending him cars and telling him ima go after work to the dealership with my parents and get whatever I can find because my car will literally barely get me home. The whole day he was leaving my messages on read then when I got home, he was ignoring me when I was talking to him “you’re talking to me?” I left to the dealership and though the drive was minutes away, my car was literally doing stuff it didn’t do before, I barely made it to the dealership. I got the car out, traded in my old one. No my parents didn’t help pay or co-sign. I just needed them there for moral support and to make sure I wasn’t getting taken advantage of. When I got home, I excitedly asked him if he wanted to see my car and he was still ignoring me like I wasn’t there. He slept on the couch. This morning he still didn’t talk to me and while at work he’s not messaged me.
Context, I make more money than him and do not need his help with payments. Up until recently I was paying more for rent, bills, etc. and constantly bought him clothes and stuff just cuz.
Idk why he is upset. My car would have had me gotten into a serious accident if I didn’t get a more reliable car asap.
How do I get him to talk to me. Almost off work so i guess i will see soon enough idk.