She is a really sweet person, she has a nice personality but oh my god i cant ignore the brainrot anymore. This sounds like something made up for a youtube short with minecraft parkour in the background but i promise its real.
Weve been dating for a few weeks and at first i just thought it was a little quirk of hers and that i would get over it. She sends those wolf ripping their shirt off memes to me and calls herself alpha (admitedly a little funny). The worst part is when im trying to be sexy or intimate or just compliment her at all in a way thats meant to be serious she says 'boomshakalacka' and says its because shes 'shy' and dosnt know what else to say. The worst time was when she responded to a shirtless pic of me with that and three blushing emojis, nothing else. She also constantly calls herself or me nonchalant and its getting too much.
She also hates dogs, says its a green flag that she dosnt like them. Idk i adore dogs with my whole heart, i have a dog, i want more dogs. This seems silly but its a majour red flag to me.
Bust basically i dont know how to tell her i dont want to see her romantically anymore over these things, they seem like such silly things and id feel like an ass if i just said it outright. And advice?
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You don’t have to tell her any of this. Just say she’s a nice girl but you’re not feeling the chemistry and then peace out.
“I don’t want to see you anymore.”
You never have to justify not wanting to date a person, and that goes triple for someone you just met
A few weeks in and you’re asking for advice. That means it’s no go. What’s even the question? You’re not good with any of this.
“I’ve realized we’re not compatible and I don’t see a future with you. I’m breaking up with you. Thanks for the great memories we made together. Good luck with your life.” Then unfriend/delete and block.
I think it won’t work between us
Everyone else is saying it already but literally all you have to do is say “it isn’t working” or you’re not interested or you don’t wanna date. You do not have to go into reasons, especially when you’ve been dating for a few weeks which is nothing. The whole point of dating is to see if you’re compatible And the two of you aren’t, that’s it.
as others have said, you don’t need to explain. if you really want to or id she asks and you want to say it, you can say that the dog thing is a huge compability issue — not silly at all, especially if you were to plan on getting serious and living together someday. raising a dog with someone who doesn’t like dogs sounds like a nightmare. you can also say that while you understand that she gets shy and resorts to being silly about it, it makes you feel unseen, or like you’re not being treated seriously. that while it’s funny sometimes, having it be overdone has been taking a toll
These arent silly things. They are compatibility issues that, over time, will cause resentment. Get out sooner than later.
“some of the ways that you are comfortable being and that I’m comfortable being are not the same as each other and in my view are too different for it to work on an ongoing basis”.
Just say “boomshakalaka not feelin it anymore ✌️”
You don’t seem to like her so.. break up with her?
Weird that she likes the wolf ripping shirt off meme and calls herself alpha and yet hates dogs…. Just throwing that out there.
Yeah just tell her you don’t think you’re compatible and don’t see long term and ALSO it’s totally okay for dogs to be a dealbreaker. Children are dealbreakers so it’s completely valid for dogs to be in the same boat.
This one working for me. I think you’re a great person but you’re not the one for me.
i mean… if the dog thing is a deal breaker, that’s fine. have you ever tried to *actually* tell her how this makes you feel and give her a chance to change course? or you’re just going to break up?
like, you can break up with anyone at anytime for any reason, that is 100% your right and choice. all i’m maybe saying here is that relationships take communication and effort. not just pure vibes alone. it’s fine you’re not attracted to her, or just don’t see yourself being with her, but you do need to communicate with your partners instead of just dumping them if you do genuinely see a future with any of your partners.
Just let her know that you don’t think the two of you are a good fit. You don’t need to go into details, and if she tries to press for them, repeat that you aren’t a good fit. Be as kind and compassionate as possible, but be clear and firm that it’s over.
Pro tip: you don’t have to have to qualify not wanting to be with someone with anything. Not wanting to be with them is reason enough within itself. It’s your life. Your time is precious. You decide who you wanna spend it with.
Not compatible my guy.
You’re just not compatible, and that’s totally fine. Let her know you’re not compatible and your values don’t really align (eg the dog thing is actually a big dealbreaker for lots of folks). Then stop texting her move on with your life.
lol you never have to give a reason. “Hey this isn’t working for me anymore”
That’s it. Done.
This is so funny that my face hurts from laughing LMAO
Bro you don’t have to be in a relationship you don’t want to be in. Thats all
Don’t use specifics just let her know
she’s sweet and you’ve enjoyed your time with her
but your not sure the two of you are as romantically compatible as you first thought
and for you the chemistry has started to fade
so you are braking up with her because you both deserve someone that you’re more compatible with.
Change the wording up to be more personal mainly just be gentle but firm and to the point, and use the words breaking up.
This girl looks adorable and fun!
But if the love is no longer mutual, it’s better to tell him quickly instead of continuing to drag things out. On the other hand, I find it important to explain to her why because she won’t have to ask questions like knowing if she did something wrong. I find ignorance to be a very painful thing.
Just say that you don’t like these “fancy” things (which doesn’t mean that others won’t like them for that either) and that you like dogs
I’m gonna be real, I don’t ever want a dog.
but EVERY person who’s ever made a point of hating dogs without some immediate clear follow up like being bitten or having to live with a bad dog owner or something…they have just been a massive red flag.
You’re just not compatible. Nothing wrong with her or you
Not liking dogs isn’t necessarily a red flag on its own. Saying it’s a green flag you don’t like them, on the other hand, is.
“I’m not feeling a romantic connection”
You’re 19. You’re not compatible. It’s only been a few weeks. Nicely and respectfully move on. Period.
You guys are so young. This is your time to explore and focus on yourself – that being said, I would encourage her to explore why she feels so uncomfortable in vulnerable situations and resorts to silliness. Let her know that you’re not feeling it romantically, that’s explanation enough!
It’s not silly when there’s a clear lack of compatibility. Not sharing the same humor alone is a recipe for future conflicts (at least from my experience, 30m) but yeah, you sound like a mature person, Just be straight up with her.
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