Anyone else struggled with always having a strong desire for a partner, but at the same time think of how fake, materialistic & transactional relationships have become?

The mental gymnastics with this has been bothering me for a long time. I understand that every relationship ever has been transactional to a degree, but today it seems so blatant and excessive that its overshadowed any genuine sentiment & core emotional value. People looking at what someone has more than who they are.