My bf is 21, i am 20. We used to make out all the time. literally all the time, every chance we got. in the elevators, in my dorm, in a quiet hall, we used to do it so much and there was so much passion in it. it never felt like a chore. we’ve done other things too. that was when i was living in a dorm room, and had to deal with hiding this relationship from my roommate. now i have an apartment. a lot more privacy. but now he doesn’t like making out. i love and crave and miss it, but he just says he doesn’t feel like it, and would rather do other things like sx or head etc. He said it feels like a chore, but for me, it’s something i need to get going. It’s the start and it’s like foreplay for me, and everytime he tries to make out with me, it doesn’t feel like anything. he doesn’t want to. it just feels like i’m forcing him to. he has told me many times that he is still attracted to me and still loves me and still wants to do things, but he just doesn’t feel like making out, and hates that i need it. he also has been very off with his libido, and making me feel too sxual that it’s a bad thing, or that i’m “putting him off” bc i want it so bad.
TL;DR: My bf doesn’t like kissing me because he feels like it’s a chore, but says he is still very attracted to me. I need kissing as the first step to anything else.