To start this off I’ve never posted on reddit so if I mess anything up let me know and my emotions are very high so if I ramble sorry
I (19F) have been with my bf, Chase, (20M) for 3 months. Our relationship so far has been great, we communicate and get along really well. Honestly I see more of a future with my current bf than I did with my ex who I was with for 3 years.
October 3rd I decided to take a pregnancy test after having some symptoms and it was positive. I told Chase and he immediately freaked out. We both took some time to process and ultimately Chase told me he wants me to get rid of it, but I want to keep it but I understand his point of view.
We’re both in college, he works for his dad on their farm so during the fall he’s never at home, kids are expensive and we’re broke as it is, and we just wouldn’t be able to give a kid the life they deserve right now. Those are all the points he gave me and I honestly agree with all of them but I just can’t shake the feeling of wanting to keep it.
I work at a daycare and am going to school for elementary education so I know how to nurture a baby, I know I’d be a good mom I love kids. Having a baby and a family is honestly one of my #1 goals in life, I don’t want to just let that go and I do want a family with Chase. I cry over this everyday and just hold my stomach. We had a talk the other night about it and I told him how I was feeling and he told me just not right now, he said in 2 years lol.
I already have the pills and I’m getting close to needing to make my decision. I’m so scared I’ll regret it, either way. If I decide to keep it and Chase leaves idk if I could do it on my own, but then I think like I could do it on my own and also what if this is my only chance to get pregnant? I know that’s a stupid reason but it makes sense in my head lol.
I’m gonna end this here cause I think if I keep writing I’ll never stop but I’ll update if I left anything out. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!
TL;DR i’ve been with my boyfriend chase for 3 months, and on oct 3 i found out i’m pregnant. he wants me to get an abortion, but i want to keep it even though i understand why he doesn’t—money’s tight, we’re in college, and he’s busy with farm work. i love kids, work at a daycare, and want a family with him, but i’m scared i’ll regret whatever choice i make. i already have the pills and need to decide soon, but i keep wondering if i could do it alone or if this might be my only chance to have a baby.