Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We started college and her thing is parties. She loves parties while me not so much. I expressed this to her before we started college and now she doesn’t invite me to anything in fear of making me feel uncomfortable (I also don’t drink or smoke). I know I sound lame but that’s just how I live.
Ive had issues with being standoffish when she talks about guys. I understand this is just an insecurity of mine and I talked it out with her and told her I would work on it. I apologized to her for not being a safe space to share and we moved on. Recently she has made these new friends. Normally she does tell me like everyone that was at any hangout she went to without me even asking(not that she has to). But now I’m noticing she doesn’t really anymore without me asking. She does this when there are guys she’s friends with at the hangout. I understand this is her just trying not to make me uncomfortable but It still makes me anxious.
Most recently she’s been going out really late with this new friend group she made. It’s 4 guys at 2 girls. But it’s mostly just the 4 guys that hangout. This makes me feel uncomfortable but I know I can trust her and she would never put herself in a situation or near anyone with bad intentions. But most of the time she drinks with these guys. Which just makes me feel weird. On one hand I’m happy she is making connections and having fun but it’s just i guess I just feel left out. My overthinking labels it as her going out with 4 guys, drinking, and doing other things till late at night. Other things being like skating or getting food and such. I understand I have trust issues from my past that she doesn’t deserve to deal with because she’s always been good to me and always reassures me. She texts me periodically throughout the night. I recently met these guys for the first time and they do seem pretty cool. They invited me out to hangout but I had a project to work on. So I had to work on it while my gf went with them.
I still have a lot of anxiety and have a really hard time sleeping when she goes out. I don’t want to feel anxious but I do. I want to be mature and feel okay with her going out with guys. I just cant help my mind from racing and feeling anxious.
TL;DR Gf has guy friends and stays out late with them and it makes me anxious