I’ve been dealing with this issue for the past year. My “friends” have been oddly passive aggressive with me by calling me weird, or muttering things under their breath like how they don’t trust people I’m friends with because I’m bad at picking friends (I have a wide circle of friends from many backgrounds and they do not) or they will actively not be intentionally thoughtful towards me even though that has been the basis of our friendship in the past.
I actively don’t call people weird or snub people. I’m really supportive of all their life milestones (marriage, new homes, baby showers, etc.) even though I haven’t met any of these life milestones yet. I just feel like a punching bag to them even though it’s clear that I am not doing as well as them financially, romantically, etc. I don’t feel like they wish me the best anymore and I’ve always loved & admired them so much. It’s a bit hurtful. Most conversations with them now revolve around some sort of dig at me for being weird (I’m just being myself and I’m bubbly and love joking around), my financial status, my social group, etc. I usually freeze up and either ignore it or poke a light joke to take the spotlight off myself.
Is there a way to deal with this that preserves my friendships with these people or is this animosity a sign of a deeper undercurrent of issues? I know it’s not jealousy because I am at my lowest point right now but I never expected them to kick me down further.