I've (28M) been dating this girl (26F) for about a month now and overall its been great, we click really well and I genuinely like spending time with her. But Im starting to feel kinda confused about the whole date thing. Basically every time I suggest doing something I think would be fun, she kinda shoots it down or suggests something way more casual instead. Like I mentioned this cool wine tasting event happening downtown and she was like "maybe we could just get coffee instead?" Or I found this really good restaurant I wanted to take her to and she countered with getting tacos at some food truck. I mean I have no problem with casual dates but I guess I was raised thinking you're supposed to put effort in and plan nice things, especially in the beginning when you're trying to show someone you're serious about them. My dad always told me that's how you treat someone you care about. But now Im worried she thinks Im trying too hard or being weird about it?
She mentioned something about wanting to save money for a trip shes got planned which I totally get, but then when I offer to cover things she gets uncomfortable with that too. I dont want her to feel pressured or anything but I also dont want to seem like Im not putting in effort by always doing the bare minimum.
Is it possible we just have different love languages or whatever when it comes to dating? Like does this mean something bigger about compatibility or am I reading too much into it? I really like her and dont want to mess this up but I also dont know how to navigate this without making it awkward. For what its worth I've got some money saved aside and honestly dont mind covering nice dates or even helping with her trip if things keep going well, but I cant even get to that conversation because she shuts down anything that costs more than like $20.