Before I jump into this I want to explain some things quickly. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 3 years now, and even close to the start had we been intimate. My girlfriend isn’t exactly a sexual person, likes things to be more romantic and doesn’t think about it often nor initiates it often. I am also hyper sexual, which I have learnt to restrain myself so that I don’t cause her to feel uncomfortable.
So to begin, my girlfriend has stopped having sex with me, which has been in the last 2 months or so. This is quite normal with her, as a few times she has taken a few months break, but I will usually be told what the issue is, which the main reason being her having body issues, or stress. At the start of these 2 months, we would start getting into foreplay and of course wanting to have sex, but it would either be left with her just touching me or quitting as soon as it goes further. There have even been a few instances when I have touched her, but after 5 minutes she’s over it. I will make it clear that consent has not been the issue, I will continue to make sure that I am getting a definite yes from her before trying anything, it just feels like she gets me turned on just to stop.
Now in the last few weeks, we will still have foreplay. We both still live with our parents and have college, so we usually stay at each others houses every weekend for 3-4 days. So when she usually does come over, we would start doing anything around the time we’d go to sleep, or just before she leaves, meaning we can’t go any further. Now she won’t do anything at all, will kiss me, take my clothes off, and have me touch her body but won’t actually have sex. And it’ll be continued even after I know we won’t be having sex, that she’ll still make out with me ect.
I’ve tried to ask the reason of this expecting it to be the same as the past reasons, but now I’m just getting told that she doesn’t know, and the conversation will be shut down quickly.
I’m starting to worry that maybe she doesn’t find me as attractive anymore, or doesn’t like the sex that we have. I’ll even ask her if there’s anything new we could try that she’d like but she doesn’t know, as well as made sure that I’m looking my best for when I see her.
Could there be any reason or anything I could do to try and help with this?