I (F) probably take longer than the average person to cum, and it seems even moreso with a partner.
Back when I was in a relationship, my partner would be touching me for like 20-40m sometimes upwards of an hour, and I think it was boring to him and was more of a chore after a while. Ofc that just made me feel worse.
I’ve tried everything, vibrators, toys, more foreplay, plenty of clit stimulation, but it still takes me a long time. It just makes me feel so broken when others are easily enjoying sex and getting mind blowing orgasms from someone they love and I feel like it’s also a chore for me to push my body.
Admittedly there’s probably past hurts from that relationship and maybe I should focus less on orgasm. But it’s still painful always watching the other person cum way more often than me because it’s easier for them. I think lots of foreplay was working for me (although this was also a long process that would take a while, so my partner was equally bored).
I’m just lost, feeling a little hopeless, and would appreciate any reassurance or advice.