Matched with this guy on bumble 2 weeks ago now. On paper he was my type and in person he was my type. To backtrack he asked me right away f i wanted to meet for coffee sometime as he doesnt like to message for too long. I agree and we plan to meet the following week on a sunday. He consistently messages me daily during the week but just one to two exchanges each from us both. So we arrange the time and place the day before.
The date goes very well – I am instantly attracted to him and we get on well ie laughing a lot, prolonged eye contact from him and i just feel comfortable around him. He just fits my type really well. He does appear to be into me as well but maybe he just enjoyed the date and not necessarily me.
At the end of the date he says he will message me later. Which he does and he says "Hope you got home safe 😀 was lovely to meet". I respond back warmly and quite enthusiastic but not overly eager and just mention that I really enjoyed meeting him. He responded with "We must organise another one some time;)". I respond the next day at lunchtime monday this week (this was the rhythm of messaging the week leading up to the date so not a contrast in messaging from me) with "Sounds like a plan:) hows your day going?"
So this is where he doesnt respond to my message until thursday night of this week at 8pm with "Hiya sorry been a busy few days :D, my week has been good, hows your week been?". So over 3 days of no contact from him. And no mention of meeting up either. So its saturday night and I have still to respond to him as I was honestly thinking he was a lost cause and that he only has mild interest in me (so no date this weekend because I had mentally written him off and was actually surprised to see a message from him on thursday night). I want someone to be genuinely into me and to see something longterm. So i am going to respond to him on monday as I honestly just feel hes making excuses about being busy and that he isnt going to ask to meet up again.
I also want to add Im not trying to play games. If anything hes the one playing games. I just want to protect my peace and energy and not have someone waste my time like before. On the flip side I am going to give him one last chance i think. Or is he a lost cause? I would really appreciate anyones thoughts on this scenario? Thank you
For context I am 34f and he is 36m