My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year now. In the beginning, we connected instantly. Within just a couple of weeks of seeing each other, our physical intimacy grew naturally we were very affectionate, always kissing or having sex whenever we met. Even though she had prior experience and I didn’t, it never created any issues between us. I genuinely felt that she craved me, and our sexual life was amazing. She used to say that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship, and I completely agreed with that.
About six months later, our “honeymoon phase” started to fade, and we went through a very rough patch. We had a series of intense fights, said hurtful things to each other, and it really strained our relationship. That phase lasted around a month, and even though it was painful, deep down we both knew we loved each other and wanted to make it work we both saw a future together, even marriage someday.
Over time, we slowly began to heal. We made conscious efforts to understand each other better and rebuild what was lost. Things have improved a lot since then. We still argue sometimes, but nothing like before it usually ends quickly, and we move on.
However, the main issue now is that I feel she’s no longer as physically attracted to me as she used to be. Sex has always been an important part of a relationship for me, but now I’m always the one initiating it. Most of the time, she’s not interested, and even when she agrees, it feels like she’s just doing it for the sake of it, not out of passion or desire. She no longer touches me in an intimate way or shows much sexual affection. Before, we used to have sex frequently, but now it happens once or twice a week and only after a lot of convincing.
I’ve communicated this to her, and she said she doesn’t feel like having sex much anymore. Instead, she wants more emotional closeness cuddling, hugging, and spending quality time together. While I understand and respect that, it’s a drastic change from how things used to be.She doesn’t even give me blowjob anymore.
It’s not that she doesn’t want to be with me she talks about marriage and our future together. But emotionally, this shift has been very hard on me. I often feel unwanted, which has made me insecure and distracted. I’m trying to handle it maturely, but it’s affecting my mental peace. I truly love her and want this relationship to work, but I’m struggling to understand how to balance my needs with hers.