So I've (24M) been seeing this girl (25F) for about two months now. We actually dated in the past for about 6 months but broke up, But we decided to give this another shot. When we're together, it's the absolute best feeling. I feel really comfortable, and she feels safe and comfortable too (she's said this herself). We go out for drives, dinners, movies etc. But when we're apart, it's not the same. I do see her every weekend though.
We actually did talk about this and the problem seems to be a lack of emotional connection. She says that I don't understand her. And I admit that she's not wrong. This is part of the reason why we broke up in the first place. And I really want to make it right this time.
The thing is, we're very different when it comes to seeing things emotionally. I like expressing my feeling more, she tends to keep it inside of her. We also have different attachment styles too. I'm more anxious, she's more avoidant.
She often doesn't share things with me that are happening in her life outside of the relationship, cause she thinks maybe I won't understand it. And that further creates a disconnect in my mind. If she won't tell me, how will I be able to understand her?
She's said that I sometimes don't say the things she wants to hear. Which is also true, that's all on me.
I am really trying to be there for her. Trying to validate her emotions, trying to understand her thought process. But I do need her help. But she doesn't like telling people what she wants.
I sometimes feel like there's a sword hanging above me and if I say the wrong thing, everything's gonna be over.
I really want to make this work. I want go give her what she wants. What can I practically do to establish that emotional connection?
TL;DR: Need some practical advice on how to create an emotional connection with the girl I'm dating.