A topic which has been discussed a lit already, but i'm sure some people here love the topic.
So my sex life with my girlfriend is great outside of this part. I don't think the issue is the attraction. Even though I vould always be better, I don't think the issue is in me, because I have never had this issue with former partners. While she does not come from penetration, that part is still very enjoyable for her, and I know most women don't.
The problem presents itself when I touch her with my fingers or tongue. She seems to be almost numb down there. I know where the damn clitoris is, but it's very small and hidden. She claims and seems to be aroused but it's always almost like it doesn't exist. She cannot communicate any directiobs for me. She doesn't react in any way that would indicate what to do for me.
I got us a vibrator maybe 1,5 years ago, and that… kund of works? She is able to cum but only after like 45 minutes of concentration. The device has to be in extremely specific angle whoch varies. I hate to admit this but this part of our sex is very boring for me. Maybe it could ve made more exiting somehow but since it requires so much focus its hard to see how. With my fingers and tongue I don't have the slightest chance. Trust me I have tried and I have had success with my former partners.
We have been dating for 3 years now, so I doubt the problem is going to fix itself. Does anyone have similar experiences of ideas here ?