About 3 months ago I was asked to watch my friends kids for a week. Her and her husband were going on a cruise and she said she’d pay me & take care of boarding my 2 dogs since her dog isn’t friendly.
I took off work and watched her 3 kids (10, 7, 5) from 7pm Sunday July 27th to Monday the 4th of August at 4pm. It was $1058 to board the dogs. And then 2 of her kids got COVID from camp. So she asked me to take all of them to the doctors and keep them home from camp.
I also went to CVS and bought cough medicine, drops, soup, and any other supplies that you need with some sick kids. But it went from having three kids in camp from 9 to 4. To having three sick kids nonstop. And also trying to keep them separate from the 5 year old who is not sick.
When she came back i asked her if she could just pay me $100 per day (7 days) & the $1058 for the dogs. And that the copays & medications/groceries were another $568.
She told me that I was rude and inconsiderate to ask for an additional $700 after boarding my dogs at an “exotic place”. I had told her it was $55 a day per dog. But that I had told drop them off early since she wanted me the night before. And I also picked them up late so I was charged because they decided to stay an extra day (last minute notice).
She told me she wasn’t paying me $100 a day and that I was greedy. She said she’d pay for the kids bills and send me $1100 and that would cover me for more than enough of my time.
I again took off work and I make about $1400 a week. So I definitely lost out either way but wanted to help her.
She didn’t tell me that her husband has lost his job. And he didn’t want anyone to know and I found out through the grapevine. And I just feel bad because it was just a miscommunication.
She’d never done anything like this before. And has been a GREAT friend. Covering my shifts, picking me up multiple times from car trouble and flat tires, took care of me for a week while I had the flu, etc. we’ve had a great relationship where we’ve helped each other.
But we both said some awful things to each other. And when i found out last month about her husbands job. She was rude and stand offish and essentially said that i don’t need her and she doesn’t need me and to mind my own business she doesn’t need my pity.
But I want to reach out again I just don’t know what to say or if I should just let it go. But we’ve been friends for about 6 years.
TLDR; friend didn’t pay me properly for babysitting. Was having financial struggles I didn’t know about. We got into a big fight and said rude things to each other. I tried to apologize and she barked at me to leave her alone and mind my business.