Hey all, M25. I am very happy with my relationship with my F23 girlfriend. However, our differences in libido (mine’s high, her’s low) are becoming increasingly frustrating to me. To give some context: in the beginning of our relationship we used to have a lot of sex, like almost every single day and it was also quite spontaneous and we both initiated. After about half a year this stopped and I feel like it has been going downhill ever since. We have talked about this often. I have asked her what I can do to bring her in the mood. We have compromised on the amount of sex, but it still feels like I have to keep initiating and we’re not nearly reaching what we compromised on. I do feel like it’s important to say that she has physical complains quite regularly (things like a cold, or pain down there). I have expressed my concerns about this but she doesnt really want to do something about it. In times where she felt well, I asked her if she maybe wants to do sports with me as that’s might be beneficial for her libido and that would be good for her immune system in general. I also proposed that we make a list or discuss our fantasies etc. so we can take that into account, but she finds that cringe. I feel like that basically whenever I want to talk about the topic it ends in her saying like: ‘Yeah you have to work on your high libido’ but the thing is I am and I am massively compromising and I dont know where to go from here on. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
TL;DR: Me and my girlfriend are in a overall happy relationship but sexually I feel incredibly frustrated and I do not know how to navigate through it