I'm 21, I just started dating someone (27M), and I've got absolutely no sexual experience whatsoever. I've dated before but I'm very aversed to touch so I never allowed anything to happen. But this time around feels different and I want to give things a shot. He's very experienced and he's had quite a promiscuous past so he seems to know what to do, but I just feel like a total idiot whenever I'm in that situation. I'm making sure to communicate what I like and don't like but I'd appreciate some guidance because I think it'll make me feel more secure.
First of all, what do people do when things are being done to them? Like, if he is touching me or giving me a hickey or eating me out, what am I supposed to do? I feel stupid just laying there and allowing things to happen to me.
Secondly, what are some intimate things that people commonly do? I try touching his chest, scratching his back, caressing his face and his ears but I find myself stumped on what to do most of the time and I really really don't want to be a pillow princess or repeat the same 2 things that I keep doing. I'd appreciate any tips or tricks or just any general sense of what to do. Sorry if this is an obvious question.