i probably sound stupid right now. my husband (27) and i (25) have been married 3 years, but our sex life has never been great. we do it 1–2x a week, only when he wants it, no foreplay. he rarely initiates, and when i do it’s usually a letdown. when he initiates it just feels like it’s because he’s already hard. is that normal? if it’s like this now, what will it be in 5–10 years?
tonight i wanted to sleep early since i have things to do tomorrow, but instead i’m crying at 1am because he didn’t even say goodnight. i wake up early, sleep late, still make time for him. after all the chores i just wanted a hug. he was away a week, and 3 days back he shows no signs of missing me. he doesn’t take care of himself (like shaving, though i’ve asked). i never say no to him, but he doesn’t initiate. is he just not attracted to me?