Hi! 20 F here. I have an issue. I’m a virgin and have had minimal intimate experiences. I’d like to say I have fair hygiene, shower everyday maybe twice depending on the day, shave etc. but my biggest hold up is my body. I’m a plus size girly, and I’m on the road to losing weight. I’ve never had the best role models growing up and to say I’m practically a hermit is an understatement.
My best friend thinks I need to start casually dating. And the biggest issue I have is once again my body. To put it flatly, I wasn’t done cooking in the oven when my mother was baking me and now my bladder doesn’t hold properly. I leak. I constantly have to wear those embarrassingly large pads just to stay dry. And the surgery that I would need to get to fix said issue is invasive and potentially dangerous. I’m pretty healthy despite being fat as hell, and UTI’s are rarely a problem for me despite the leaking. The surgery is not needed to live a healthy life.
What I’m trying to say is that how do I go about having sex despite these challenges. I want to have sex. I want to have a life and hopefully my own kids one day. My friend made a comment saying to pretend that I squirted and that just seemed wrong. I don’t want to lie to the other person either.
Am I stuck being like this forever?