I am 25M with experience of some flings and hook ups which they were scarce. I was having health issues and was isolated due to life circumstances. Currently started taking care of my health and gym and I start have women notice me more and more. From 20-40. I don't know what to do. Start dating multiply women? How? Try to find a girl for relationship? How? Approach them? How? I don't have any friends and most of my hobbies are solo so I don't really have a way to socialize. I live in a student town and I feel women who are younger than me are not that much interesting for relationship but they are good looking. On the other side I don't find more mature women as attractive due to them having lower libido compare to younger ones BUT some of them certainly are. I also have lost my confidence. I don't know what to expect anymore. I had got used on the highschool, university type of dating scene. I am outside of my waters as of now.
Also, I experience some grief over the years of the past which I didn't date and the things which I could have. I feel some kind of jealousy, anger and sadness for loosing most of the biological prime of male sexuality but life had different plans. I feel so sorry that I wasted so much time and I have the biological window shrinking. It feels that there is not enough time… Also it seems that I want things which I can't have anymore but I can have things which I don't desire.
Before you suggest therapy, I have done it. They told me to focus on my values but right now I don't know what I value really…