Me (32M) and my girlfriend (32F) met 7 months ago and at that time she told me " no kids" which is something i am fine with. I dont want kids now I do not know if I will want them in future. So I am fine with my gfs stance. Yesterday I told my girlfriend that I am dealing with varicocale and I was diagnosed 3 years ago. I was offered surgery but I did not have the surgery well because I do not have a reason to. Doctor told me that It could impact fertility. So when i told this to my gf she was like " you dont wanna have surgery really ?!, dont get me wrong I wont probably ask you to have surgery but what if you had a girlfriend who asked you to have a surgery ?" I told her that it could be discussed in future. Yesterday my gf also told me that she tought about surgery to end her fertility but "she did not come to terms with a final decision" She also told me that " it sucks that females has biological clock and can not have kids after certain age" I am really confused with what is going on with my gf. She never identified as childfree but she told me "no kids" multiple times. What is going on with her ? ( we are both 32 years old)
edit: My problem is I have a condition that makes me infertile, and I need to have surgery to fix it. This surgery was offered to me 3 years ago, and I said no. Her question was " what if you had a girlfriend who wanted you to get a surgery to be fertile again?"