I've been married for about 5 years, my wife's family is 13 hr flight away, and mine is 2.5 hr flight away from where we live.
My wife doesn't want to visit my family, but wants to visit hers at least every other year. I understand her wishes to visit her home country, she grew up there and has most of her friends there, and I'm not a fan of visiting my own family, too, but my family's starting to feel very left out because we've never visited them for the 5 years since we've been married.
If i were to accommodate everyone's preferences it's probably best for us to not visit anyone's family but ask the family to come to us if they want to see us, and we've been doing this but this seems unsustainable (both our families have siblings so they can't just simply always visit us for every thanksgivings, etc), have anyone run into this problem and found a workaround?