If you ever had problems in your marriage what was your wake-up call that made you realize your wife was DONE?
I have been so patient with my husband, but finally accepted the fact he has control issues and I’ve been DROWNING in them. He says he doesn’t want therapy because he doesn’t want people in his or our business but I don’t care. I want people in my life who can tell me where I need to do something differently.
I can go in to detail, but there’s so many instances it’s not even worth it anymore.
This is what I want to say to him, but would this make a difference? If it wouldn’t, what would?
“You’re right. I can’t stand you on most days. You are overwhelming. I get that you are protective over me and the girls, BUT it’s smothering. If I could afford to leave I would.
When I was praying for a husband someone prophesied my husband would recognize my fire and help flame it and contain it, not smother and cover it and cause it to burn out. But that’s what’s happening. I am covered and smothered.
You tell me to just ignore you and do what I want but how is that a relationship? Why do what I want I’m just gonna hear about it later?
I get we’re in in a tough season financially, but you provide more than money. I want peace. I want protection with my feelings and emotions and dreams and I ideas, but I don’t get that.
I get objections. Guidelines. Formats for my dreams that don’t line up with what God has told me.
What happens when we have money again but we don’t even enjoy one another?
Because that’s where I’m at. Why should I hate my life AND not have money when I could enjoy my life and still not have money??
I’m ready to say eff this and eff us because I’m done.”