Boyfriend recently went up the bum, because I was on my period and we wanted to fuck. Weve tried it before and it either hurt or didnt really work. But this time, oh my god. I loved it so much! He is neutral about it, says hes just chuffed that im chuffed. We did it again yesterday and now its all I want.
My concern is, he is already so much more vanilla than I am. And also has a lower sex drive than me. He does kinky things, but only for me and doesnt get pleasure from the naughtiness or sensation himself. He always says hes easy, dick rub feel good nice. And ive always wished he would get down and dirty and into it with me, but I contain these desires because I can't change him, and he does humour me. But now, this is even worse! Not only do I want him to cum on my face and pull my nipples anymore, Im obsessed with getting rammed up the bum too! Im afraid im just getting dirtier and more insatiable while he stays vanilla and keen to bang when I want, but also unbuttered if we dont. What do I do! I wish I could keep him exactly as is because hes perfect and I love him, and just have him also be a sex maniac. I wonder if age is a factor, he is much older than I am. I also sometimes wouldn't mind if our sex was harder, but when it is he comes too quickly. This is my first relationship, I've never navigated sexual incompatibility before.
Hes already doing so much just to please me that he normally wouldn't. I ask for hard play, cum all over, and now anal too. And theres more that I would love to ask. Fucked up shit. That I know he would do because he doesn't judge, he isn't weirded out by anything. But at the same time I fear sex will start to feel like a favour, a chore, a science experiment for him.
I consider opening things up. But it's him I want to share these experiences with. He makes me horns as fuck because I love him, it wouldn't be the same with a freaky fuck buddy.
I am F 23, and he M 34.