I’m studying abroad and in a long-distance relationship that started off amazing. I have knowm her for 4 years at high school, although we started seriously talking a year and a half ago, and got into committed relationship 7 months ago. I lnow her very well. After a few months, my girlfriend said the distance was hard and needed more reassurance, so I started texting her more often amd givingpre attention. At first, things were fine, but later she began pulling away, and I started over-texting and asking for reassurance myself. Sometimes our communication was good, but it never felt enough for me.
When her college started in September, things were good for about 10 days, but then she became distant again, saying she was busy and stressed. I got frustrated and blamed her for not making time, which led to a big argument. She said she felt uncomfortable, that we don’t understand each other because of the distance, and then she blocked me everywhere — though she never said it’s over.
Her friends told me she’s just overwhelmed and needs time to think, and that blocking doesn’t mean breaking up. After reflecting on everything, I realized I have an anxious attachment style and she’s avoidant. I’ve decided to give her the space and time she needs, but it’s been three days since we last talked, and it’s really hard not trying to fix things. I’m unsure when or how to tell her about our attachment styles and suggest we work through them together, especially since I know avoidants usually need more time. Here, my mind is blowing up
TL;DR
My long-distance relationship started great but later got difficult — she began pulling away, and I started seeking more reassurance. After some arguments about communication, she said she felt uncomfortable and blocked me, though she didn’t say it’s over. I realized I have an anxious attachment style and she’s avoidant. Now I’m giving her space and trying to figure out when and how to talk to her about our attachment styles and fixing things.