Hey AskMenOver30 I figured I would ask here and see how everyone else gets the motivation to get fit. Didn’t really know what tags to use, over the last 5 years I’ve put on over 60lbs and I just don’t feel good about myself. I’ve struggled with weight since I was in middle school, always the big guy around most folks. I always say I’m going for a walk tomorrow then it’s a month later and I did nothing and gained more weight. Been feeling super depressed lately as well because of it. I should probably see a doctor but how do I get the motivation to do that?
I have a wife but she’s been distant lately and I don’t even know what to do about that. We used to have a great life together and we’d do fun things together, sexually active together but that has fizzled out. I can count the number of times we’ve had sex in the last year on 2 hands. I’ve been loyal to her for so long and I do love her deeply. She’s been talking about kids and frankly I don’t know if I even want kids. The thought of trying for them makes me happy because it would be a lot of sex… I’ve read enough on Reddit to know that’s not a good reason though. I used to feel comfortable around her and I could talk to her about anything but my confidence has been shattered after the 1,000th “No” when asking about anything sexual at all.
Can you guys help me find my motivation and voice again? Thank you to anyone who took a look at my post even.
Thanks,
Dino