I’m(35F) and I have 4 kids with my husband. We have always had big problems because we didn’t really marry for love. We married when we were still supposed to get to know each other.
Fast forward, the lack of love is creeping in. We will do very well as co parents but not much as partners. I’ve asked husband to let’s go counselling or therapy and he HAS VEHEMENTLY REFUSED. He says nothing is wrong in the marriage. Mind you we live separately as he works in a different place. He only comes home weekends or every two weeks.
I am not in love with him, neither is he, I asked him 2 days ago if he loves me and his response was “I’ll respond later”. I also told him I think he married me just to be mother to his kids and he said what’s wrong with that also?
I feel we will both be happier as co parents than as partners.
I have asked that we end the marriage but he keeps making me feel guilty according to him, I’m messing up the kids lives. Does love grow and why hasn’t it grown towards him for 10 years