Hi I have been married for 10 months now and engaged for 2.5 years. All this time we have been LDR.
I have found hi checking out IG models and random women after marriage a lot, confronted him a few times he always dismissed saying I get curious a lot so I search but I have always observed that he deletes those searches prolly because I get upset and ask him and it turns into an argument every time.
I stopped touching his phone entirely a couple of months ago whenever he visited for my own peace of mind. And I know it is not right.
Last Friday his friend’s wife sent me a couple of screenshots of my husband and her husband, where my husband shared a reel with him asking him to check out the hot girl and the friend replied that you have a wife shame on you and the conversation continued where my husband says you only live once and I am not marrying that woman in the reel I am going to enjoy my life you don’t look, fine.
My husband had sent me that reel as well but hadn’t said anything and it is of a girl who I have a feeling he has been crushing upon for a while now. I know he is not cheating though.
Anyway, I was already overwhelmed so I said kindly don’t send me videos and reels of women you’re crushing upon and he got super defensive and lashed out at me to which I said let us not stay in touch till you come back then we will have a conversation about this.
But the next day I folded and sent him a check in that he never even opened, 5 days passed by and I got extremely anxious so I sent him another text asking about him and asking where our marriage stands to which he replied nothing is happening to our marriage. I replied when I woke up and he replied to another one of my messages 24 hours later telling me he is super busy.
I sent him a short reply that he has not opneded again it has been 12 hours and he is not busy, his brother visited for a few minutes he had to drop something off and I could see his phone was blowing up so I asked and he told me that my husband is sending him reels.
I was planning on showing him that original chat as proof when he came back but idk when he will come and he is repeatedly ignoring me because right now he doesn’t know I have proof. It is giving me anxiety that he did me wrong dismissed the marriage in that chat and is also not talking to me although it should have been the other way around.
What should I do.