We’ve known each other for years now but ended up getting together. In the beginning it felt like he couldn’t keep his hands off me, and it made me feel beautiful in a way I hadn’t ever felt before.
I feel like things have gotten quite complacent. I plan most dates, try and fit them around his schedule. I feel sometimes that I put more effort into being romantic. Bring him flowers, send him songs that remind me of him, try and plan things in advance so he knows just how much I care for him and the relationship. I feel like I’m shut down whenever I try to initiate sex, and we don’t even kiss much anymore. I’ve bought lingerie, tried to come on to him, and it doesn’t seem to catch his attention anymore.
Maybe I’m putting too much pressure on things, but I’ve always been a romantic. Maybe I’m being unrealistic and this is just how relationships are. It has me feeling downhearted about the relationship, knowing if I’m being unrealistic might help me put things into perspective.
I’m worried to bring it up because these conversations can leave me feeling deflated and unsure, or that my standards are too high and I’m being a nag. Any advice would be helpful